With Law of Attraction, When Is It OK To Be “Selfish?”
Author: Marie Gee (26 Articles)
Marie is a contributing author and technical assistant at Gratitude Planet. She loves music, fine wine, and great coffee.
The Law of Attraction has been criticized by some people as a “selfish” approach to life. It teaches that you can do, be, or have anything you want, as long as you align with the thoughts, feelings, and actions of the things you want. The perception of selfishness is based on a mistaken belief that there is not enough, and that when you get something, someone else misses out. But the Law of Attraction is not a tool for stealing someone else’s stuff from them. It is a tool for aiding in the expansion of the Universe through your focused desires. It is a big part of how the world evolves and expands to accommodate ALL desires on planet Earth. It is a consistent law because it fairly and perfectly brings you events and things that match your average vibrational offering. Law of Attraction never has to say, “sorry, that’s out of stock, please ask for something else right now.” It has the unlimited ability to bring the essence of anything you want into your experience, and it doesn’t matter how many others have asked for the same thing. There is no limit, except the limit of your personal vibrational alignment on any topic. No one can offer a vibration for you, so what you think about and focus on, and how you feel, determines your point of attraction. Law of Attraction is always reading your vibrational point of attraction and matching you up with more experiences that are like it. Another way to say this is that if you think a thought, and you keep thinking this thought, and you really get on a rampage with this thought…then you will find it easier and easier to think this thought, as well as other thoughts that feel just like it. Very soon, you will see evidence of this thought appearing “out of nowhere” and seemingly inserting itself in your daily experience. People, events, and seemingly “chance” occurrences will start to mirror the vibrational average of these thoughts. You will have created a new aspect to your daily experience that now seems to be coming at you from outside yourself…but remember that it all started with a thought you kept thinking and thinking until it had enough momentum to appear and manifest “from outside.” The real question worth asking at this point is “how do you like this thing, circumstance, or experience you have created?” If you are thrilled, bravo to you. If it sucks, you can begin again by choosing a different line of thinking and feeling on this topic. You get to choose. Yea!
So what does it mean to be “selfish” in light of all this? Being selfish means that you care enough about yourself that you are willing to think, feel, and act in positive ways toward yourself. It means that you understand that you are the only one creating and attracting things to you, and it means that you have ultimate responsibility to choose your point of attraction. Being selfish means getting really picky about how you feel, and the thoughts you choose to rampage about. Selfish means “full of self” but not “taking from others.” Selfishness is an act of responsibility where you fill yourself with love and connection, and then radiate that energy out to the world, and the others living in it.
Some feel that the opposite of selfish is “selfless.” They contend that true service to others is demonstrated when you don’t care at all about yourself, but rather when you care more about others. But you can’t think and feel for another person. You can’t align someone else up with anything…that is their job. If you get really focused on someone else’s happiness and turn away from your own happiness, you have little to offer them in terms of happiness. In fact, you can’t get unhappy and inspire ANYONE to happiness. What inspires and attracts happiness is…more happiness. You give to others when you are selfish enough to be connected to Source Energy. You will never be poor enough to make others rich, or sick enough to make others well. Rather, focus on your own thriving on all topics that are important to you. Your success and vibrational set point will inspire others, and you will radiate joy and connection. You help others by living your life fully, and by teaching through your actions. Think about it: When you go to a teacher, you want them to be living the curriculum they teach. You don’t want them to be the opposite of their message so that YOU can align with it. We align with our desires, and the Law of Attraction boosts our alignment, and then we radiate this alignment by being who we are. Be selfish. Care about what you are attracting. Share your connection selflessly. When you are selfish, you now have enough of yourself to give. Be Well, Marie
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Selfish is Self-ful. Who else is going to do YOUR work for you? It’s up to you man.
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The only answer I have to someone calling me selfish, is this: Who isn’t?
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What I find interesting, is that the people who call you selfish, are the very same people who want you to do something for them, or live in a way that THEY deem acceptable. So, who’s really the selfish one?
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I love the analogy of the teacher. It snapped the whole topic into focus for me! Thanks, Marie!
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Love this one Marie. You are right that being selfish is not PC but it makes sense in terms of LOA. have a great day.
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